9 Tips for a Perfect Proposal
Proposing is one of the most exciting things a guy will ever do. But even though he might have received a “Yes!” in reply, many a man has come away from asking for his lady’s hand thinking he could have done a better job. Have a sinking feeling that this could soon be you? Get prepared with these nine proposal tips.
1. Have a Ring
While this one may seem obvious, plenty of guys have popped the question without the bling. “But the ring is so important because it symbolizes the commitment,” says Michele Velazquez, co-owner of proposal and romantic event planning company The Heart Bandits.
2. Have a Proposal Budget
Most men only put aside money for the ring, but don’t even think about saving for the actual proposal itself, says Velazquez.
3. Ask Dad For Permission
We love tradition, so we encourage “asking permission,” says Kendall Rodriguez, vice president of proposal, wedding and anniversary planning company The Yes Girls. “At least thank dad for his incredible daughter. Or, for a modern-day twist, we suggest including both parents.”
4. Have a Proposal Plan
Velazquez warns against simply putting the ring in your pocket with the mind-set that you’ll just spring it on your girlfriend when the time feels right. Instead, decide on a solid concept, create a plan and have backup plans.
5. Listen for Clues
No idea where to start? It’s always smart to incorporate her favorite things or fondest memories, says Rodriguez. And keep an ear open for places she says she wants to go or things she would love to do together.
6. Respect Her Style
“If your girlfriend loves to be center of attention, then planning a public proposal might be a great idea,” says Velazquez. “But if she’s shy, you probably want to propose privately.” Don’t make the mistake of designing the proposal around things you like, she adds. For instance, if you love hockey and she doesn’t, don’t propose on a hockey rink just because you think that would be awesome.
7. Document It
Arrange to have the proposal photographed or filmed, suggests Rodriguez. This way you get to watch what actually happened, and you can share the special experience with family and friends.
8. Consider hiring a Pro
“We provide a female’s prospective, we save you money with our resources, the girlfriend and the ring get the presentation they deserve, and you get to experience the joyful moment, too,” says Rodriguez. Base packages for proposal planning typically are around $100 and include an interview followed by personalized proposal concepts. If you want assistance with the event, expect to pay around 10 times that – or more. “If you need us to arrange a helicopter landing on a golf course it will cost more than if you want to hire us to set up a blanket on the beach,” says Velazquez.
9. Enjoy the Moment
Yes, it likely will be one of the most stressful events in your life, Velazquez says, but keep in mind that you’ve found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Enjoy it!